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20 Things You Need To Let Go To Be Happy

20 Things You Need To Let Go To Be Happy

Everyone has one common goal in life: to achieve true happiness. The biggest factor holding us back from achieving our dreams is, simply and sadly, our own selves. We put limitations on ourselves everyday, whether intentionally or unintentionally. There are so many ways we can alleviate these restraints.

Remember, life can either be something you embrace or something you hide from. Stop making things complicated and just live your life. It would be so much simpler and more enjoyable if we learned to just release certain limitations.

Let's take a look at the things you need to let go of in order to become a happier person.

1. The Approval Of Others

Who gives a sh*t what other people think? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then whose business is that but your own? Think of how much you could achieve if you stopped letting other people's opinions dictate the way you live your life. Do you, and engage in whatever actions you think might better your life.

2. Anger/Resentment

Anger will eat at you from the inside. Learn how to make peace with those who have wronged you. This isn't about letting the other person off the hook; it's about alleviating the pain that resonates within you. Keep in mind that he who angers you, controls you.

3. Negative Body Image

There is only one person's opinion you should be concerned with when it comes to your body and that is you. No one person determines what the "correct" body type is. If you are comfortable in your own skin, and you are healthy, then that should be the only thing that matters. Do not let others tell you that you're not beautiful because if you believe you are, then you are.

4. Idea Of A Perfect Partner

There is no such thing as a perfect partner, so throw your checklist out the window. In life, what prevents us from moving forward is looking at the perfect image of a partner we concoct in our minds. Find the right person for you: one that you can love with all your heart, one you feel comfortable with and one that accepts you for the person you are. The sooner you realize there isn't one perfect person out there for you, the better off you will be.

"He's not perfect. You aren't either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn't going to quote poetry, he's not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don't hurt him, don't change him, and don't expect for more than he can give. Don't analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he's not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don't exist, but there's always one guy that is perfect for you." – Bob Marley

5. Perfect Life

Just like there is no perfect partner, there is also not a perfect life. Life is what you put into it, so if you are not willing to work hard and put forth effort, you will most likely end up miserable. The choices you make will directly reflect the life you lead. It is up to you to create the best possible world for yourself.

6. You're Going To Be Rich

Too many people live their lives with the thought that they will be millionaires. While this can be a realistic goal for some, it is not something that can be achieved without hard work and dedication. Stop letting money be your sole motivator; find a career you are passionate about and immerse yourself in it completely.

7. The Idea That Good Fortune Will Arrive At Your Doorstep

You need to go out into the world and actively look for fulfillment. You cannot take a backseat in life and expect things to happen for you. Appreciate the life you live, and be grateful for what you have. Value each minute of every day. Live like there's no tomorrow, and make the most out of any situation.

8. Excuses

Make no time for excuses. You want to work out, but you don't have the time? Wake up early and get your gym on. Excuses are only rationalizations that make you feel better about yourself for not doing something you want/need to be doing. You desire results? Stop bitching, and start doing.

9. Thoughts Of Your Ex

This person is your ex for a reason. If you are going to think of him or her at all, try and think only about the lessons the experience taught you. Do not linger on any old feelings, as this will only prevent you from being happy with someone else in the future.

10. Stubbornness

I know it's hard to admit, but sometimes you are just wrong. Other people have just as much capability as you do in providing the correct answer, so stop being stubborn and just embrace it. The less stubborn you act, the more open you are to learning new things. Think of all you could be exposed to if you stopped believing in opinions other than your own.

11. Procrastination

Stop thinking you will finally get to whatever task is at hand tomorrow. Live in the present, and get your sh*t done when it needs to be done. Maximize your time to the best of your ability. Complete each task you need to as soon as you can. This allows you to feel free from worry and stress by getting things out of the way as soon as possible. You also allow yourself more free time to enjoy the things you love.

12. Your Baggage

We have all been hurt one time or another by someone we loved, or we thought we loved. Carrying negative feelings into future relationships will only prove to be disastrous. No two people are the same, so it's unfair to hold a future partner to a standard set by an ex. Try to begin each new relationship with a clean slate.


13. Negativity

What you put out into the universe will come back to you, so change the way you think, immediately. Stop thinking of life as a glass half empty, but rather, half full. You have so much to be grateful for, if only you took a moment to appreciate it. Anything is possible in the mind of a positive thinker.

14. Judgmental Thoughts

Why do people feel the need to constantly worry about what is going on in other people's lives? If we spent as much time worrying about our own behaviors as we do worrying about those of others, our lives would be a whole lot more meaningful. You have no idea what is going on in another person's life, so who are you to pass judgment on the way they act?

15. Jealousy

Happiness is not having what you want; it's wanting what you have. Stop envying others and learn to appreciate what you have. Everyone's life is unique; you have certain things to offer that others cannot. When we act in a jealous manner, all we do is bring negative feelings into our lives. There is absolutely nothing to gain from behaving this way.

16. Insecurity

Happy people tend to have extremely high levels of self-esteem. They accept who they are and work it everyday of their lives. They radiate confidence, flaunt their pride and give off positive vibes. There is no reason to be insecure in life. If there are things you are self-conscious about, go out into the world and seek to change them. Only you have the ability to create the best version of yourself.

17. Depending On Others For Happiness

At the end of the day, the only person you can count on 100 percent of the time is yourself. Do not make the unfortunate mistake many people do and put your happiness in the hands of others. A relationship is not going to fulfill the void if you can't even make yourself happy. You need to achieve happiness on your own before you can find someone else to share it with. This creates a detrimental dependency that will prevent you from becoming self-sufficient.

18. The Past

Stop living in the past! There is virtually nothing you can gain if you wallow in mistakes you have previously made. Take past mistakes as lessons learned, and move forward. You cannot wholeheartedly move on to a better future if you are constantly looking behind you. Things happened, and that's that. Take them with a grain of salt and move on.

19. The Need For Control

Sometimes you just need to let life happen the way it is meant to. You cannot spend your life stressing about things that are outside of your control. Try to relax, and let things play out naturally. Embrace the unknown, as this is where you will be surprised the most. Let yourself be whisked into unforeseen endeavors, and relish in the excitement they bring.

20. Expectations

Managing your expectations is the key to happiness. If you let go of expectations, you will never be disappointed. Often, we tend to believe that the way we treat others will be the way we are treated in return. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. Do not expect a certain result from any given situations. Go into an experience with an open mind. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself, without the pressure of living up to preconceived notions.

 

By Ashley Fern / Elite Daily

 

Ref : http://www.mindpowernews.com/LetGoBeHappy.htm

 

 

 


 

 

 

 

What important lessons has life taught you?

 

1. Never seek happiness from other people. You will never be happy in life if you do, knowing the fact that you are your own master and you hold your own happiness.

 

2. Never depend into people for anything, you will always be let down.

 

3. Never hold your expectations high for anything, just be yourself and live for the moment being constantly who you are, because when we expect the most we always get let down.

 

4. Never escape problems always try to face them and solve them, because if you do the problems get bigger and they will drain you out of your energy.

 

5. Never allow people to dictate how you feel about yourself or to dictate your happiness in general.

 

6. Never get affected by peoples thoughts, what they think of you, how they view you and what they are saying, what you think of yourself that’s what matters and how you view yourself.

 

7. Always push yourself out of your comfort zone or at least try on daily basis to achieve success in life.

 

8. Always fight for what you believe in and chase your dreams’’If your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough’’.

 

9. Always fight for what you believe in even if it means to stand against the people , remember you were born to stand out not to fit in, every individual is unique on it’s own, so do not afraid to stand out from the people.

 

10. Learn to enjoy your own company only then you are going to be happy. Meaning life your life to the fullest and be proud with what you possess and who you are, this will make you attract the whole people around.

 

11. Learn to love yourself, respect yourself, appreciate yourself, value yourself and take a good care of yourself, so you can reflect back with those things to the people.

 

12. Never trust too early, never allow anyone to surpass your boundaries if they do learn to walk away.

 

13. Never waste your time and energy to negative-toxic people there will always be someone on the line that is going to judge you so live for yourself and distance yourself from those individuals they will leave you drained out of energy and time, surround yourself with the positive, with the people that share your mindset, your world, your emotions and ideas.

 

14. You don’t need to prove, you need to be. Never try proving yourself to anyone knowing the fact that you do not owe anything to anyone especially to the people that hold no value in you, the moment you feel that you need to prove your worth to someone is the moment that you should utterly walk away without wasting time and energy.

 

15. Do not go on wasting your time and energy in life, you will need them later on, knowing the fact that every movement requires time and energy.

 

16. Know that on your journey to a dream or your path you are going to lose lots of people, be ready for it, time will reveal peoples faces and you are going to be surprised with how much you have lost in the process especially if you are successful, do not allow that to take you out of your path or your dream, because if you are losing people that shows that you stood up for what you believed and you are still following that path and chasing that dream, the people that will fade know that they were never in there to begin with, only the true people that really loved you will stand on your side on your darkest and sweetest days those are the people that really care about you, the rest who fade are just history, even the people that you thought they were in there or you trusted them so much, that’s why time reveals everything.

 

17. Do not go around Empathizing with every individual, be smart with your Empathy, share your Empathy with the right people, they will use that against you and hurt you badly, that’s the hard truth that i learned late in life.

 

18. Be positive only then you are going to live a happy life, always wake up even if you are feeling bad, show up and start your day with a smile on your face, no matter what happens, you are responsible for your happiness do not allow people to dictate your moods.

 

19. Grow everyday from life experiences as a human being, view every negative experience as a growing lesson, those experiences happen for a reason to grow your mind and to teach you a lesson, do not afraid them, be grateful that they happened because you are losing nothing on the process while you are earning everything, most importantly you are growing unlimited on daily basis and learning self control.

 

20. When people provoke you it’s a positive thing, do not react, this is a test that life has thrown to you with this test you are basically going to know how mentally strong you are and how much in control you are with yourself, when those experiences happen over and over again you get stronger and more in control of yourself, the people that provoke you are wasting their time while you are earning lots on the process.

 

21. Never allow your past to dictate your present or future. Live for the moment and make the best out of it.

 

22. Never view people as all the same simply Black and White, everyone is different and everyone should be treated differently according to their character, if someone has hurt you in the past that does not mean that you should hurt another human being believing that everyone else will be bad.

 

23. Never judge another individual. Never try to bring another individual down rather cheer them up.

 

24. Never take life too seriously, you will be left drained, joke around and play around.

 

25. Never go around trying to fix people especially if you are on an active relationship so they can love you, this is pure Co-Dependency and you are going to end up hurt.

 

26. Know the fact that love will find you whenever you are already happy, because you are going to reflect to the people more attractive if you are simply being yourself, having a blast and being all confident on your own skin with your own company and caring less.

 

27. Never beg, plead or cling for the people to stay with you especially in relationships, the door is open if it is meant to happen it will happen, if not the door is open they can leave, the right people in the right moment will enter your life and never leave, while the wrong people will leave.

 

28. Never go around searching for Love desperately this will make you less attractive, because you are desperate and you are going to appear desperate.

 

29. Life will force you to walk away from the people that you thought they were the right people for you, it will take you serious guts to walk away, it’s easier to stay then to walk especially from those types of individuals that you really love and care or you thought they were different while they were not, know the fact that you can’t really go against your destiny neither change it, so eventually you will have to learn the hard truth of walking away sometimes which will be the hardest thing for you.

 

30. Know one thing in life’’God will give you the people that you need and deserve, not the ones that you want’’.

 

31. Work smart in life rather then hard. Everything in life requires being smarter, so use your mind rather then wasting your body.

 

32. Always forgive the people that have hurt you however never forget what they did to you. Why do you need to forgive them?So you can simply shift your valued time and energy from those people to someone new who deserves it so you won’t have anything to do with them anymore. Forgiving shows maturity and growth however you are going to never forget, you need to show those people that there should be a difference between you and them. Just take it this way if you get a clean paper and you write something in it then you erase the things with a rubber, will the page ever be as clean as it was?Nope because there will always be some rubber left in the paper.

 

33. Know that the only Unconditional Love and Care that you are going to ever receive is from your parents, no body else will give you those things, so stop searching for those things from other people.

 

34. Do not overthink before doing anything, because they chances are you will never get the thing done, just think less act more, go out there show up and stop overthinking, because you are going to got trapped on those thoughts forever.

 

35. Learn to fight your own battles in life, do not expect people to fight them for you, everyone has a battle going on you will be severely dissapointed.

 

36. Learn to pick yourself up when life brings you down to your knees, do not expect people to pick you up because no one will do that for you. Why do we fall? To learn to pick ourselves up.

 

37. Whenever you do something good you should do it without expecting anything in return because if you do expect something in return you will be diassapointed.

 

38. Learn to push yourself out of your comfort zone on daily basis, why?To challenge your mind so your mind grows everyday when your mind grows your body follows, only then you will make the impossible seem easy, when you learn to capture and control your own mind because you are your own master.

 

39. Why do most things seem impossible in life?Because we are making them seem impossible, by remaining constantly on that comfort zone of ours that it feels comfortable, by allowing our mind obstacles to dictate our actions and fears, by being trapped on that fear and living always on the fear, who creates that fear?Our mind does, because we exactly know where our comfort zone ends, if you don’t push yourself out of that comfort zone you will never reach your dreams.

 

40. It’s fairly important to do the things that you are the most scared about doing on life or the things that feel impossible’’Only then you are going to beat your fears and achieve greatness. What does not kill you it makes you stronger, as soon as you are breathing you are good to go, whatever leaves you scared stiff keep on doing that stuff until it becomes nothing more then a routine, always strive for more, do not get satisfied with what you possess, trust me you grow everyday and your dreams grow even bigger on daily basis, the sky should be your limit when you chase your dreams.

 

41. People always ask me who inspires you on daily basis?I answer them with a simple answer, my inner self. I inspire myself everyday by pushing myself out of my comfort zone, achieving the things that i thought that they were impossible a few days ago, weeks ago or months ago or even years ago, so when i look at myself in the mirror i remember where i was standing and where i am standing now it gives fuel to my fire to reach even higher then where i am right now, your best motivation in life should be your own self, your bruises, pain, success they should be your medals of honor and your inner motivation to keep on striving for more. Imagine when you eat your favorite food, you will always want more of that food and feel hungrier, that’s how success in life should feel to you, when you reach something strive for something higher, let that success of yours make you hungry for more so you can constantly grow and keep on chasing your dreams.

 

42. I’m thankful to all those who said no, because of them i did it myself-Albert Einstein, when people refuse to help you take it the positive way, you were created to fight your own battles in life, they are basically doing you a favor, they are making you do the things that seem impossible for you, they are making you do the opposite of what your mind thinks, they are making you the things that seemed impossible without them to do basically possible, i got refused millions of times however i did all of the things myself, now i don’t depend anymore to people, i finish everything alone knowing the fact that they do not owe me anything, i fight my own battles, they are the ones that created me and gave me control over myself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  1. Never seek happiness from other people. You will never be happy in life if you do, knowing the fact that you are your own master and you hold your own happiness.
  2. Never depend into people for anything, you will always be let down.
  3. Never hold your expectations high for anything, just be yourself and live for the moment being constantly who you are, because when we expect the most we always get let down.
  4. Never escape problems always try to face them and solve them, because if you do the problems get bigger and they will drain you out of your energy.
  5. Never allow people to dictate how you feel about yourself or to dictate your happiness in general.
  6. Never get affected by peoples thoughts, what they think of you, how they view you and what they are saying, what you think of yourself that’s what matters and how you view yourself.
  7. Always push yourself out of your comfort zone or at least try on daily basis to achieve success in life.
  8. Always fight for what you believe in and chase your dreams’’If your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough’’.
  9. Always fight for what you believe in even if it means to stand against the people , remember you were born to stand out not to fit in, every individual is unique on it’s own, so do not afraid to stand out from the people.
  10. Learn to enjoy your own company only then you are going to be happy. Meaning life your life to the fullest and be proud with what you possess and who you are, this will make you attract the whole people around.
  11. Learn to love yourself, respect yourself, appreciate yourself, value yourself and take a good care of yourself, so you can reflect back with those things to the people.
  12. Never trust too early, never allow anyone to surpass your boundaries if they do learn to walk away.
  13. Never waste your time and energy to negative-toxic people there will always be someone on the line that is going to judge you so live for yourself and distance yourself from those individuals they will leave you drained out of energy and time, surround yourself with the positive, with the people that share your mindset, your world, your emotions and ideas.
  14. You don’t need to prove, you need to be. Never try proving yourself to anyone knowing the fact that you do not owe anything to anyone especially to the people that hold no value in you, the moment you feel that you need to prove your worth to someone is the moment that you should utterly walk away without wasting time and energy.
  15. Do not go on wasting your time and energy in life, you will need them later on, knowing the fact that every movement requires time and energy.
  16. Know that on your journey to a dream or your path you are going to lose lots of people, be ready for it, time will reveal peoples faces and you are going to be surprised with how much you have lost in the process especially if you are successful, do not allow that to take you out of your path or your dream, because if you are losing people that shows that you stood up for what you believed and you are still following that path and chasing that dream, the people that will fade know that they were never in there to begin with, only the true people that really loved you will stand on your side on your darkest and sweetest days those are the people that really care about you, the rest who fade are just history, even the people that you thought they were in there or you trusted them so much, that’s why time reveals everything.
  17. Do not go around Empathizing with every individual, be smart with your Empathy, share your Empathy with the right people, they will use that against you and hurt you badly, that’s the hard truth that i learned late in life.
  18. Be positive only then you are going to live a happy life, always wake up even if you are feeling bad, show up and start your day with a smile on your face, no matter what happens, you are responsible for your happiness do not allow people to dictate your moods.
  19. Grow everyday from life experiences as a human being, view every negative experience as a growing lesson, those experiences happen for a reason to grow your mind and to teach you a lesson, do not afraid them, be grateful that they happened because you are losing nothing on the process while you are earning everything, most importantly you are growing unlimited on daily basis and learning self control.
  20. When people provoke you it’s a positive thing, do not react, this is a test that life has thrown to you with this test you are basically going to know how mentally strong you are and how much in control you are with yourself, when those experiences happen over and over again you get stronger and more in control of yourself, the people that provoke you are wasting their time while you are earning lots on the process.
  21. Never allow your past to dictate your present or future. Live for the moment and make the best out of it.
  22. Never view people as all the same simply Black and White, everyone is different and everyone should be treated differently according to their character, if someone has hurt you in the past that does not mean that you should hurt another human being believing that everyone else will be bad.
  23. Never judge another individual. Never try to bring another individual down rather cheer them up.
  24. Never take life too seriously, you will be left drained, joke around and play around.
  25. Never go around trying to fix people especially if you are on an active relationship so they can love you, this is pure Co-Dependency and you are going to end up hurt.
  26. Know the fact that love will find you whenever you are already happy, because you are going to reflect to the people more attractive if you are simply being yourself, having a blast and being all confident on your own skin with your own company and caring less.
  27. Never beg, plead or cling for the people to stay with you especially in relationships, the door is open if it is meant to happen it will happen, if not the door is open they can leave, the right people in the right moment will enter your life and never leave, while the wrong people will leave.
  28. Never go around searching for Love desperately this will make you less attractive, because you are desperate and you are going to appear desperate.
  29. Life will force you to walk away from the people that you thought they were the right people for you, it will take you serious guts to walk away, it’s easier to stay then to walk especially from those types of individuals that you really love and care or you thought they were different while they were not, know the fact that you can’t really go against your destiny neither change it, so eventually you will have to learn the hard truth of walking away sometimes which will be the hardest thing for you.
  30. Know one thing in life’’God will give you the people that you need and deserve, not the ones that you want’’.
  31. Work smart in life rather then hard. Everything in life requires being smarter, so use your mind rather then wasting your body.
  32. Always forgive the people that have hurt you however never forget what they did to you. Why do you need to forgive them?So you can simply shift your valued time and energy from those people to someone new who deserves it so you won’t have anything to do with them anymore. Forgiving shows maturity and growth however you are going to never forget, you need to show those people that there should be a difference between you and them. Just take it this way if you get a clean paper and you write something in it then you erase the things with a rubber, will the page ever be as clean as it was?Nope because there will always be some rubber left in the paper.
  33. Know that the only Unconditional Love and Care that you are going to ever receive is from your parents, no body else will give you those things, so stop searching for those things from other people.
  34. Do not overthink before doing anything, because they chances are you will never get the thing done, just think less act more, go out there show up and stop overthinking, because you are going to got trapped on those thoughts forever.
  35. Learn to fight your own battles in life, do not expect people to fight them for you, everyone has a battle going on you will be severely dissapointed.
  36. Learn to pick yourself up when life brings you down to your knees, do not expect people to pick you up because no one will do that for you. Why do we fall? To learn to pick ourselves up.
  37. Whenever you do something good you should do it without expecting anything in return because if you do expect something in return you will be diassapointed.
  38. Learn to push yourself out of your comfort zone on daily basis, why?To challenge your mind so your mind grows everyday when your mind grows your body follows, only then you will make the impossible seem easy, when you learn to capture and control your own mind because you are your own master.
  39. Why do most things seem impossible in life?Because we are making them seem impossible, by remaining constantly on that comfort zone of ours that it feels comfortable, by allowing our mind obstacles to dictate our actions and fears, by being trapped on that fear and living always on the fear, who creates that fear?Our mind does, because we exactly know where our comfort zone ends, if you don’t push yourself out of that comfort zone you will never reach your dreams.
  40. It’s fairly important to do the things that you are the most scared about doing on life or the things that feel impossible’’Only then you are going to beat your fears and achieve greatness. What does not kill you it makes you stronger, as soon as you are breathing you are good to go, whatever leaves you scared stiff keep on doing that stuff until it becomes nothing more then a routine, always strive for more, do not get satisfied with what you possess, trust me you grow everyday and your dreams grow even bigger on daily basis, the sky should be your limit when you chase your dreams.
  41. People always ask me who inspires you on daily basis?I answer them with a simple answer, my inner self. I inspire myself everyday by pushing myself out of my comfort zone, achieving the things that i thought that they were impossible a few days ago, weeks ago or months ago or even years ago, so when i look at myself in the mirror i remember where i was standing and where i am standing now it gives fuel to my fire to reach even higher then where i am right now, your best motivation in life should be your own self, your bruises, pain, success they should be your medals of honor and your inner motivation to keep on striving for more. Imagine when you eat your favorite food, you will always want more of that food and feel hungrier, that’s how success in life should feel to you, when you reach something strive for something higher, let that success of yours make you hungry for more so you can constantly grow and keep on chasing your dreams.
  42. I’m thankful to all those who said no, because of them i did it myself-Albert Einstein, when people refuse to help you take it the positive way, you were created to fight your own battles in life, they are basically doing you a favor, they are making you do the things that seem impossible for you, they are making you do the opposite of what your mind thinks, they are making you the things that seemed impossible without them to do basically possible, i got refused millions of times however i did all of the things myself, now i don’t depend anymore to people, i finish everything alone knowing the fact that they do not owe me anything, i fight my own battles, they are the ones that created me and gave me control over myself.
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